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100deepquestions

For late night talks with friends

If could relive childhood all over again without being able to change anything, would you?
Looking at your current level of intelligence and attractiveness, which would you choose to increase/improve?
Which have you thought about more, your wedding or your funeral?
If you knew you would never meet your soulmate or be happy in a relationship, would you choose to still get married/settle down with someone?
Do you take what you can get, or are you “all or nothing"
Have you ever thought you had a mental health issue/illness?
Which are you most like and why -a river, a lake, or an ocean?
If your partner/you were to get pregnant at this current moment, would you keep or abort the baby?
What is the biggest mistake you’ve made
What do you feel is your biggest personality flaw?
Which do you admire more -your mother or your father?
Who do you spend more time trying to impress?
What is something that you do often, but almost always regret?
Have you ever fantasized about having sexual relations with someone in this room?
Do you prefer to be the big spoon or little spoon?
Do you prefer to be tied up or do the tying? (bondage)
Do you have a martyr complex?
What is something you wish you were complemented on a lot more?
If you just met someone and found out they were a psychopath, if you knew they would never harm you, would you like to be their friend?
Have you ever admired a manipulator?
What is something that if someone does it, they immediately lose your respect?
What would having sex with the person to your right be like? (Characteristics)
What do you think the person to your left thinks their best quality is?
What do you think people your age’s biggest insecurity is?
What do you think makes you the most different compared to everyone else in the room?
What do you think makes you the most different compared to everyone else your age?
What personality characteristic gets you in trouble the most
What personality characteristic gets you the most friends?
Pick a personality characteristic from the person to your right that you would want to have
If you were a relationship with the person on your left, what do you see them doing that would end the relationship?
What characteristic makes you a bad girlfriend/boyfriend?
What characteristic makes you a great boyfriend/girlfriend?
Ask the person opposite you why they think you are single
Which person in the group do you feel the most chemistry with?
Have you ever fantasized about anyone in the group?
What would make you leave your partner?
What would your parents have to do to lose your love?
What would your parents have to do to lose your respect?
What about growing up has been the hardest for you?
How do you deal with bad memories?
How good are you at reading people?
What is a weakness you have in your relationships?
Do you think it is/will be easy for you to say “I love you” or difficult?
If you had a daughter, what would you tell her about boys?
If you had a son, what would you tell him about girls?
Which do you think you are stronger in? intelligence or emotional awareness?
Are you more of a long-term or short-term relationship person?
What scares you the most about being in a relationship?
Are you attracted to happy people or broken souls?
Have you ever had an incestuous thought?
What do you blame your parents for?
List five ways in which you are, after all, quite difficult to live with?
The chief problems in my relationship with my mother were…
The chief problems in my relationship with my father were…
If someone likes me a lot, I start to feel…
What did you learn about relationships from your parents?
What slightly unhealthy things feel attractive in a partner? How might this relate to your opposite sex parent?
What slightly unhealthy things feel attractive in a partner?
If you could consider yourself dispassionately, what might you warn a friend about if they were thinking of starting a relationship with you?
If I were to explain a bit more to people about how I felt about things, they would…
What are, or would be, my faults as a parent?
What would hurt you the most, in terms of what your kids do/are like/think?
What would be the biggest disappoint you in the kids?
Name three sexual scenarios that especially excite you.
When do you cry or want to cry (as an adult)?
List five things that are the important to you in your life. How much of your time do you give to each of these?
What things do you often end up buying that don’t – on reflection, much of the time – actually satisfy you that much?
What are you trying to say through your clothes?
Name three works of art (music, literature and visual art/architecture) that mean a lot to you.
What are you a little addicted to? Porn, alcohol, shopping, arguing…
What negative character flaws do you fear – in your worst nightmares – that other people have spotted about you?’
‘If I knew I couldn’t fail, in my professional life, I’d try to…
Rank in order of importance for you in your career: Money, Status, Creativity, Social Impact, Colleagues.
What sort of things have made you envious recently?
When my partner disappoints me, I:

Explode/get angry at them
Withdraw
Re-evaluate our relationships
Other -

What often impairs your decision making process? Lack of confidence, impatience, desire to please, over-excitement…
Choose four adjective to describe yourself. Ask three good friends to do the same for you.
What are you currently lying to certain people around you about?
If a really kind person wanted to praise me, they’d say…
If a really tough person assessed me, they’d say…
Are you dominant or submissive sexually? And in the rest of your life?
What things would deeply alarm your loved ones if they knew them about you?
If you could create your ideal pornography, what would it feature?
What would you ideally like someone to feel compassionate towards you for? What would it beautiful if they could forgive?
What did you most enjoy doing as a child? Do you get those feelings now?

profeminist

Tampons are a “luxury item”

gehayi

Once I worked as an intern in the state capital. One of the representatives I worked for was this middle-aged guy. And he hated the tampon and napkin machines in the women’s bathrooms. Hated them. He insisted that they weren’t necessary.

I found out why after I’d been working there, oh, about a month. My period started suddenly, as it sometimes does, and I asked to excuse myself to go to the ladies’ room. He wanted to know why. I told him.

He started ranting about how lazy women were. How we wasted time. How we were so careless and unhygenic, and that there was no call for that. He finished by telling me that I certainly was NOT going to the ladies’ room and that I was just going to sit there and work. He finished this off with a decisive nod, as if I’d just been told and there could be no possible argument.

“If I don’t go,” I said in an overly patient tone, “the blood is going to soak through my pants, stain my new skirt that I just bought, and possibly get on this chair I’m sitting in. I need something to soak up the blood. That’s why I need to go to the bathroom.”

His face turned oatmeal-gray; an expression of pure horror spread across his face. He leaned forward and whispered, “Wait, you mean that if you don’t go, you’ll just keep on bleeding? I thought that women could turn it off any time that they wanted!”

I thought, You have got to be kidding.

Several horrified whispers later, I learned that he wasn’t. He actually thought a) that women could shut down the menstrual cycle at will, b) that we essentially picked a week per month to spend more time in the bathroom, i.e. to goof off, and c) that napkins and tampons were sex toys paid for by Health and Human Services. I didn’t know the term then, but he believed that tampons were dildos. Which was why he and a good number of his friends considered them luxuries.

And that’s how, at twenty, I had to give a talk on menstruation to a middle-aged married state representative who was one of my bosses. American politics, ladies and gentlemen.